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Love Notes
by Larry James

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by Wayne & Tamara Mitchell

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Larry James
  • Relationship problems do not go away. They must be worked through or else they remain, forever a barrier to the growth and development of the human spirit. Trials and tribulations are to make, not break us.

  • Mature love partners have learned not to expect perfection in each other. They know that acceptance has its own reward. Each lover's differences test the other's capacity for acceptance, forgiveness and understanding. They never dance around issues. When necessary, they discuss their imperfections, lovingly, with care not to pass judgment with harmful words. Acceptance and tolerance hold hands in the presence of unconditional love.

  • Only one thing activates, then converts the negative energy of anger into positive energy. . . intention. The intention must be to do something different; something that works. When you discover that what you have been doing isn't working, the only logical thing to do is to do something different. We are talking about change. Yes, it is uncomfortable to change. You must decide which is the most uncomfortable. The same energy you expend on anger, when redirected, can help free you of the negative emotions you feel when you are angry. Freeing yourself of these negative emotions is something you do. It is never dependent upon whoever or whatever you think is the cause of your

  • anger.
  • A constructive argument; one that does not seek to make your love partner wrong and make you right; one that searches for understanding; one that releases tension and facilitates an emotionally healthy breakthrough, can help your relationship evolve to a new level of love and understanding.


©2005

©2005 Larry James. Reprinted with permission. ~ This article is adapted from Larry's books,
"LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing,"
"How to Really Love the One You're With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship"
and "Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers." (Career Assurance Press).

Author Larry James is also a professional speaker. He presents "Relationship Enrichment LoveShops" nationally for singles and couples.

Larry is on staff with Dr. John Gray, Ph.D.

For information or to order a personally autographed book call: 800 725-9223.
CelebrateLove.com, P.O. Box 12695,
Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695.

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WebSite: CelebrateLove.com


See a Review of Larry's books:
How to Really Love the One You're with!:
Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship
LoveNotes for Lovers:
Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing
Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers:
The Importance of Great Sexual Communication and Other Essentials for Extraordinary Hot Sex

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that everybody chases but no one seems to find.

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but causes too many men and women to end up whispering - "Is this all there is?"

That great SUPPOSED TO BE -- that you know - you just know - that if you ever got it - everything would be okay.

You tell yourself that's what you really believe . . . REALLY . . .

Except . . . in the shadows of the night . . .

When you wonder if that's all just an illusion . . . a story you tell yourself to get by.

Is love supposed to be so complicated?

That's what soap operas sell.

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Sadly that's what many men and women believe love is and should be.

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  • Learning communication skills is not enough. That just teaches you to fight more effectively.
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